Week 6: What do we do now?

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Many of us are progressing through the stages of grief (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression) after the election of Donald Trump.  Have no doubt about it, this is grief of a profound order.  If you are still mourning, take the time you need and reach out for support.  Read more here. 

If you have moved through these stages and are now asking: What do we do now?   What is the first step?  Read on.

  1. It all starts with Love.

Love for yourself— Do what will make you feel better:  Scream, Sing, Cry, Dance, Hit balls at the batting cages.  Reach out to allies and friends and let them support you.
Love for those around you, who support you.  Thank those who are lending you a shoulder to cry on, liquor to drown your sorrows in, or inspiration to get out of bed in the morning.  We cannot do this alone – it truly takes a village.
Love for those who do not support you.  We are all connected, whether we agree or not.  We will need them, and at some point, they will need us.  Keep that in mind when you are considering whether or not to unfriend FB friends.   If you feel strong enough, listen to them and hear what is in their heart.  If they are harassing you, or putting you down, then go back to the first point:  Love for yourself.

2. Then, get informed.

Rely only on curated sources of information.  Stop relying on Facebook recommendations for news – they will only tell you what you want to hear.  Turn off the 24-hour news channels – they don’t have time to curate their news.  Question links even from trusted friends–  there is rampant misinformation (on all sides!). Subscribe to reputable journals, either online or for the good-old-fashioned-paper one —  Washington Post, New York Times, Los Angeles Times.   Newspapers need our support, and we need their objective information more than ever.  Listen to National Public Radio or your local affiliate.  They will not always tell you what you want to hear, but it will help you be a more informed citizen of this country.  We cannot afford to stay in our bubbles.

3.  Get connected to the issues you care about.

What are you passionate about?  Most of the people I know are not “one issue” people.  They care about issues of civil rights, and reproductive rights, and education and climate change.  I know it’s hard to choose– my dad calls me “jack of all trades, master of none”–  Start with one or two, and you’ll expand your capacity to take on more things over time.

Find reputable organizations that care about those issues too, and stay connected to them.  Get on their mailing lists and stay connected to their work.  Here’s a starting list here:

Issue Advocacy Organizations
Reproductive rights Planned Parenthood
Reproductive rights NARAL
Civil Rights ACLU
    Women National Organization for Women
    Latino National Council of LaRaza
    Black Black Lives Matter
    Black National Association for the Advancement of Colored People
    Jewish Anti-Defamation League
    LGBTQ Mazzoni Center
    LGBTQ Lambda Legal
    Muslim Council on American-Islamic Relations
Gun Control Moms Demand Action
Environment Earth Justice
Environment Sierra Club
Promoting progressive candidates for office She Should Run
Immigration Border Angels
Policing Reform Campaign Zero

4. Identify your skill set.

Everyone has something to offer.  Here are just a few things that you can do:

  • Stay informed – Must. Stay. Informed!  That’s how democracy works.
  • Support victims of harassment and hate crimes –  put a safety pin on your jacket, so people know you are an ally.  If you are a lawyer, volunteer to provide pro bono services to victims of civil rights violations.
  • Donate money – Any amount you can give is valuable to progress your issues forward.  Find reputable organizations.
  • Call and write letters – When bills relate to your issues of interest, write or call your Representatives and Senators.
  • Vote – Mid-term elections are two years away, and will involve ballot questions and local candidates that need our attention as much as, or more than, the national elections.
  • Run for office – Do you feel moved to run for office?  Now’s the time! There are organizations to train and promote candidates.

This journey will be difficult, and we will encounter obstacles.  After all, we are rebuilding ourselves and our nation.  When it does, go back to the first point– Start with Love.  Take care of yourself so you have the stamina to keep working.

Week 5: My Election Day Prayer 

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My Election Day Prayer

I bow my head down and close my eyes and pray.

I pray that all citizens of our country will be able to cast a vote safely on Tuesday.

I pray that we see humanity when we look into the eyes of the polling volunteer, the candidates’ passionate sign-holding supporters, or other voters.

I pray that we remember how precious is this right to vote, and that not all people had this right at all times in our nation’s history.

I pray that we will each bring the light in our hearts with us into the voting booths.

Will you pray with me?

Week 3: The Debate

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Bile churns into nausea, flooding my stomach

I feel untethered and ill, at the idea that

His squinty eyes, and that god awful orange hair

would represent US to the world.

I have seen this sight on my TV before–  vague ideas and a stump speech about plans to save the economy.

Light jabs from him to her, and back again, like jousters.

Dread solidifies like cement in my jaw, waiting, no, praying,

His mask will melt to reveal the horns and red tail of his true self.

I tense my brow, compelling my third eye to curse his confidence and that pouty mouth.

Panic takes hold.  I flee to find a sugary dessert to ease the anxiety.

She jabs at him, saying he will try to get out of paying his share of taxes

“Such a nasty woman”

It bellows from his microphone, as viewers hold their breath to take in what happened.

Nasty.

Nasty?   An incongruent reaction to a policy proposal.

My jaw loosens, and I exhale with relief.

A speck of guilt occupies my conscience, that I have been wanting another human to blunder and ultimately, fail.

But only just a speck.